Pam made the comment that student's remember negative comments for a lifetime. As an adult, I also remember a few hurtful comments that teachers have said. More than likely, those comments were unintentional, but they still seem to scar. Therefore, I hope as a golden rule that I always consider the feelings of others (students or friends) before I comment.

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Missy, I believe your comments are true great teachers should treat everyone with respect and that is true for all great people from any occupation in life. Luv ya, Pam C.

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1. In order to see the behavior we want, we have to model it. Students respond positively to respect. As teachers, we are obligated to do the best by all of our students, not just the cute, well-behaved, smart ones. We want to be treated equally, and should treat others the same.
2. The three myths are that students will stop working, I might miss someone, and I don't have time. It has been my experience that when I praise someone specifically enough, I not only get that child working, but I get several of the others trying harder as well. It has also been my experience that you get a lot more instructional benefit from praising the appropriate behavior, than from correcting the negative. It is true that you don't always praise everyone you should. However, you will get to most of them if you try, rather than none of them if you don't.
3. There are times that you have to distance yourself from the chronic complainers. When met with a complaint, try to point out a positive in the situation. There are always situations that are worse than the one you're in. I liked the author's example of his experience with the "country club principal". It makes you feel much better to count your blessings than to dwell on your needs.
4. Attitude is everything. We have the ability to label students, parents, and colleagues with negative comments. If we filter our comments to all we come in contact with, we create a positive environment. We all need to vent at times, but be very selective about when and where.
5. Less effective teachers don't have the same expectations for themselves and their students. If they did, they would be more concerned with other peoples' perceptions of them. By treating those people with respect, and responding positively to negative situations , we can show them a better way to treat people.
6. The learning process breaks down and students lose respect for us when we lose patience. Scars can be formed by our unprofessionalism.

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1. Feeling valued and loved is a huge motivator. All students, even the youngest, are able to sense whether or not they are liked by his/her teacher. Great teachers realize this and even though they may not like all the actions of all their students all the time, great teachers are always able to find something about each child that they like. Great teachers make it a top priority to make sure that all of their students feel that they are respected and liked. A goal of all great teachers should be that others around them can not tell which students are most or least liked, but all students are respected and cared for.

2. Myth 1- If I praise too much, they will stop working. False- Genuine praise (not false flattery) often has the opposite effect. You realize that someone has acknowledged you for something that you have done well and that often drives you to work a little harder.

Myth 2- I might leave someone out. False- Someone that gets in the habit of complementing others soon will find that you will be able to compliment everyone that you work with almost effortlessly.

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1. Effective teachers must treat their students with a positive attitude. Students who are treated just one time with sarcasm or a cutting remark will remember that one time forever. That is a powerful thing to think about.
2. Myth 1: If I praise people, they will stop working. Truth is that praise will most always make a person strive even harder to do well. Myth 2: if i start praising people, I might miss someone and hurt theirfeelings. The solution is certainly not to stop giving praise at all, but to put forth the effort to recognize more people more of the time. Myth 3: I don't have the time. If there is time to gripe, whine, and complain,there is time to give praise. 3. Great teachers recognize that perceptions can become reality. Think positively and relate only positively to students and coworkers. 4. Teachers behaviors set the tone of our classroom and our school. If we are negative, whiny and complaining constantly, the students will begin to reflect this. If we interact with students, coworkers, and administration positively, the students behaviors will reflect that. 5.Less effective teachers may not repair because of their own low self-esteem or because of pride or ego. Great teachers are a role model not only for their students but other teachers as well. Always be positive, and never condescending when dealing with a problem. We all have negative thoughts and feelings. That doesn't mean you have to say them out loud. 6. Nothing positive is likely to ever come out of becoming impatient or unprofessional in the classroom. Instead, the students behavior will reflect the same behaviors as the teacher.

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1 Great teachers must always act as if they like all ther students because then the students will feel wanted and will want to please their teacher. If they feel unliked they will act out to get some kind of attention that they want... NEGATIVE attention and that's when problems can begin. RESPECT is the word we need to remember. Treat students with repect and you are teaching respect!! 2. Myth #1" If I praise people they will stop working".... So untrue! If you give authentic praise it is a great reinforcer and motivates them to do better and also motivates others around!!! Myth 2 I might miss someone.... If one feels this way they may never praise anyone. What a shame that would be. We can all find something good in everyone and we need to tell each one how we feel when you are proud of an accomplishment. Myth 3 " I don't have the time"... Just stop complaining and say something NICE!! You will feel good and so will your students! 3. Great teachers can have a impact on others who are prone to complaining by staying positive .You can set an example and they may follow in your footsteps. We are all professionals and must act that way ! Don't let the negative pull you down! Great teachers never do. 4. Teachers must filter out all the negativity that doesn't matter much and must have and share with others only a positve attitude.Consistency is the key again. Choose what matters and filter the rest out. 5.Less effective teachers look to put the blame somewhere else instead of admitting their own faults so they can repair. We must all understand we are human and not perfect. Therefore continue on and look for those who can accept their mistakes and how they repair them. Positive out weighs negative!!! Effective teachers teach students the behaviors that repair a situation and don't wait for problems to occur. 6. IMPATIENT>>If a teacher is impatient their class will act out! Remember the teacher sets the tone! Keep calm, show respect and you may receive!

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1. Great teachers realize the power they possess over their classroom. They know if they come into the room with a hateful, vindictive, uncaring attitude toward just one child the class will do the same. Great teachers have unconditional love and respect for each student.

2. Myth 1: If I praise people they will stop working. Psychological research shows that individuals actually work harder when praised.
Myth 2: If I start praising people, I might miss someone and hurt their feelings. You can find something good in everyone. Praise a different person each day. It’s better to give praise then not.
Myth 3: I don't have time. That’s just an excuse. It only takes seconds to offer praise.

3. Great teachers try to filter negative comments by finding something good that has come from something bad. Great teachers try not to gossip or spread bad news or rumors.

4. We have a rule in my class room that my grandmother used to say, and also Thumper, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." In art class we critique students work. The children hold up their work and we all look. Each row takes a turn. I need to find positive things to say about each piece of artwork. Sometimes it comes down to me saying, "Wow, I love that red color!" Instead of saying, "Good grief what is that mess!" When i use my filter and see something I like, the students start to use their filters.

5. Sometimes teachers don't see what they are doing. Sometimes we need to have a mirror to our face to actually see ourselves. We all need to spruce up our people skills. I have always watched to see how people inspire others. I try hard to use their techniques and tricks. Less effective teachers need to watch those people who are more effective. We can all work together to have a more successful school atmosphere.

6.Students also become impatient and hateful with their classmates. They mimic what they see.

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1. "You don't have to like the students you just have to act as if you like them." The reason is simple , if you don't act as if you like them, then it doesn't matter how much you like them, the whether you like them at all becomes irrelevent. We should always , no matter what, treat all our students with the same measure of respect.
2. Myth 1- If I Praise them they will stop working. The opposite is true. When we get praise we try harder. Students feel better about themselves when they feel valued and respected.
. Myth 2- If I praise them, I might miss someone and hurt their feelings. The solution is not less praise , but to be more generous in our efforts to recognize others. We look for the positive in each of our students.
myth 3- I don't have time- Praise takes very little time and effort.
3. Teachers that model their expectations for how people should be treated give their school a valuable gift. A gift that , in time, everyone in the school can give each other. Everyone should be treated with respect and dignity. We counteract negative complaining with positive attitudes.
4. Teachers are the filters for the day-to-day reality of school. We filter out the negative and approach every new day in a possitive manner. Each day is a new day with no mistakes.
5. Less effective teachers see the negative
or bad in everything and usually everyone. The best way to change this pattern is to put our time and energies into helping build their "people skills" and make it easier for them to repair or to say " I'm sorry." We practice and model this behavior .We set an example for others.
6. When educators become impatient and unprofessional we lose the respect of the students and effective learning in the classroom. When educators have a positive attitude in the classroom the students will respond and will work to please us. We can choose to focus on the rewards and challenges in a positive way.

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Well, here I am doing assignment six. I think I need to praise myself since I thought I couldn't handle the computer work. Boy, do I feel great! You know, I just praised myself and it felt good. Can you imagine how students feel when good, authentic praise is given them?It only takes a few seconds,but can have a lasting effect. I think we can find something to praise in every student. Praise can contribute to self-esteem like aspirin to a headache.
Everyone has good in them, we just need to find it. The great teacher will act as if he/she likes all the students in order to have a successful classroom. They realize they must be impartial. Colleagues who are prone to be negative can be a challenge to deal with.There's a song with the following lines:Accentuate the positive. Eliminate the negative. Latch on to the affirmative. Don't mess with Mr. In-Between. We all filter out the choices in our lives. Keeping a positive outlook can lead to better relations. One source of negative acting can be when an educator becomes impatient and unprofessional. Educators are human and humans do err. A professional will re-think, reflect,and correct the situation. ctwatts

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